Fear is a shared component of our human nature. Paradoxically, this emotion is necessary for our survival and sometimes even propels us forward, yet it can, and often does, equally serve as an obstacle that deters us from realizing our true potential. And one of the most prevalent fears among humans is the fear of personal growth and greatness.
Whenever I write about this fear, I get responses from three groups of people:
There are those who relate to what I wrote because they have recognized this fear in themselves.
There are those who are genuinely curious, maybe even confused, about why anyone would be afraid of growth and greatness.
And there are those who claim that such fear doesn't exist.
So, to help the latter two groups understand this fear and the first group overcome it, let's take a closer look at five reasons that give rise to the fear of greatness and growth, and how to overcome them.
1. Fear of the Responsibility and Work
The daunting nature of responsibility often forms the basis of our fear of growth. As we stand on the threshold of acknowledging our potential, we are faced with countless opportunities. However, each of these opportunities carries challenges and requires effort if it’s to be actualized. This can be overwhelming, forcing us to retreat back into our comfort zones. The fear arises from our reluctance to bear the weight of our potential greatness and the monumental work it demands. This realization is especially intimidating as it is often paired with a stark understanding of the risks involved.
It is crucial to remember that this fear is universally experienced and serves as an indicator of our recognition of the gravity of our talents and the responsibility they entail.
2. Fear of Alienation
The path to greatness is seldom traveled and can often be isolating. We are afraid of being ostracized or rejected due to our unique aspirations or achievements. This fear is firmly anchored in our innate desire for acceptance and affiliation, often dissuading us from standing apart from the crowd. We are social animals, and some would even say herd animals. Fear of being branded 'different' or 'eccentric' has deterred many from chasing their dreams and stunted their growth. It is essential to remember that this fear, however potent, is a shared experience. We all have a fear of rejection that coexists with our ambition, creating a unique tension that both hinders and propels us.
3. Fear Triggered by Past Trauma or Complex
Sometimes, the fear of growth is not rooted in the future but originates from our past. Traumatic experiences or deep-seated insecurities can be unconsciously linked with growth, causing a profound fear of moving forward. The process of honing our skills, developing our potential, and stepping into our greatness might trigger these latent memories or complexes, hence instilling fear. This fear is intensely personal and deeply ingrained, making it particularly challenging to confront and overcome. However, it is prevalent among all of us to a certain extent, as our past influences our present and our perception of the future.
4. Fear of Seeming Arrogant or Self-Centered
As we stride towards our greatness, we may harbor fears of being perceived as self-centered or arrogant. Our society often paints an unflattering picture of confident, ambitious individuals, leading many of us to suppress our potential for fear of negative perception. This fear arises from our need for social validation and our desire to be perceived positively by our peers. It is a testament to our empathy and consideration for others' feelings. If you were truly arrogant and self-centered, this fear wouldn’t be present in you.
5. Difficulty Envisioning Oneself as a Prominent or Authoritative Figure
Envisioning ourselves in a position of authority or prominence is intimidating for many. This fear typically stems from our insecurities or perceived inadequacies, casting a shadow of doubt on our potential. Our apprehension to step into these roles is as common as our desire to do so, forming an intricate part of our journey towards personal growth and greatness. I’m sure all of you’ve heard about imposter syndrome before. And if you've ever attempted to go out of your comfort zone and actively engage in your personal growth, you’ve had to experience it. The good news is that there is not a single human being who has accomplished something notable in their life who hasn’t had to face the imposter syndrome.
Overcoming these Fears
"David, this is all good, and I relate to what you wrote," you might say.
"But how do I overcome these fears?"
Firstly, acceptance is key. Fear is a universal emotion and serves as a protective instinct. Recognize that these fears are natural and an integral part of personal growth. By acknowledging their presence, we can understand our fears better and not let them control our actions and decisions.
Secondly, you must cultivate the attitude of courage. Understand that courage is not the absence of fear but the determination to persist in the face of it. It is not something that you are either born with or not; it is in the power of every human being to adopt the attitude of courage. The courage to accept our fears and still pursue growth is the most significant stride we can make towards realizing our greatness.
Lastly, embark on the journey of personal growth with the understanding that it's a journey, not a destination. Growth requires continuous learning, exploration, and expansion of our comfort zones. Remember, growth is a choice. In the words of Abraham Maslow,
"One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again."
Therefore, choose growth. Embrace your talents, unlock your potential, and step into your greatness. Let your fears not be shackles but stepping-stones that guide your path to growth and greatness. It's a path that we're all walking, each at our own pace, each with our own fears. You're not alone. You're understood. You're acknowledged. Choose to grow, and greatness will follow.
"There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living." (Nelson Mandela)
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Very good!
“Fear is a shared component of our human nature”. The bottom line: fear is a constant in our lives, but it’s on us how to mold and guide it