This notion of "my culture is particularly rigid with masculinity" makes me laugh. Not because I disagree, because I see it in my own culture, but because it's so true for every culture. Every culture will say that about their own. Man is ultimately a construction of a culture but ofc he is also a product of evolution. I take an existentialist view on the matter - we are thrown into this life and its up to a man to make himself a man - a bit like Simone de Bouvier's mantra of "you become a woman".
I'm sure that every culture will say that about their own but what I was getting at, for example, is that you will rarely meet a person who thinks that smiling at a stranger is a sign of weakness or that another man holding eye contact with you for more than a couple of seconds means that he wants to fight you. Well, in Montenegro, that's almost the default state of masculinity.
This notion of "my culture is particularly rigid with masculinity" makes me laugh. Not because I disagree, because I see it in my own culture, but because it's so true for every culture. Every culture will say that about their own. Man is ultimately a construction of a culture but ofc he is also a product of evolution. I take an existentialist view on the matter - we are thrown into this life and its up to a man to make himself a man - a bit like Simone de Bouvier's mantra of "you become a woman".
I should certainly read Deida's work though
I'm sure that every culture will say that about their own but what I was getting at, for example, is that you will rarely meet a person who thinks that smiling at a stranger is a sign of weakness or that another man holding eye contact with you for more than a couple of seconds means that he wants to fight you. Well, in Montenegro, that's almost the default state of masculinity.