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Jakob's avatar

This describes exactly where I was 2 months ago. I realized that I hate and punish myself because I'm not walking the path I'm supposed to walk. Aligning my actions with my values and goals gave me a huge forward momentum and I managed to be compassionate again. But then I fell into a self destructive cycle again and now I'm full of self hatred and shame. Eventhough I realigned my actions I feel really bad about myself now for wasting the last 2 1/2 months and ruining my mental health again. I hope things will get better with time and I hope my plans still have fruits.

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Martin G's avatar

Fantastic as always. You can either let it ruin you or use it to your advantage.

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John F.'s avatar

This is a great piece. The fear of the unknown has definitely held me back at from capitalizing on my potential at certain points in my life. Taking the first step in a new direction is always scary, but facing this with courage will eventually turn self-loathing into self-respect.

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Kory Hart's avatar

I've learned from Sara Brewer's Overcoming Pornography for Good that shame ultimately begets more of the undesired behavior. Being able to accept and love yourself as you are actually allows for growth to take place, which is not what I would have expected. What you're saying here seems to be a good step in turning the shame around

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