On Loneliness and Rejection
Human being is a lonely animal. The loneliest creature in the universe.
The only thing that can make one even lonelier is being rejected by another human being.
To remove all of one’s internal barriers, to get outside of one’s cocoon, to expose the deepest and most hidden parts of oneself, and to be rejected.
If anything can make one even lonelier than one already is, it is to offer one’s naked soul to another human being, only to find out that they don’t want it, or even appreciate it.
That’s why the attempt to cure one’s loneliness involves the risk of becoming even lonelier.
It involves the risk of being broken, or even shattered into pieces.
So the human being decides that it is safer not to try. After all, this loneliness is one’s natural state.
One will learn to live with this loneliness rather than risk the absolute agony of rejection.
Being rejected is the only thing that can make one’s loneliness even worse.
Or so one thinks.
Human being is a lonely animal. The loneliest creature in the universe.
The only thing that can deepen one’s loneliness is never opening oneself up to other humans.
Never removing one’s barriers and letting others get close.
If anything can make this creature even lonelier, it is never daring to show one’s soul to anyone.
Never gathering the courage to expose oneself to someone.
The most dangerous thing a human can do is never taking the risk of trying to relate to another human.
To remain closed off in one’s own world. Never to let anyone inside, and never to try to enter someone else’s world.
Choosing to remain alone is the one thing that makes the human condition even lonelier.
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