The whole approach you're taking reminds me that we aren't loops or cycles. The world is though and the world is throwing its crap our way.
I can't change the world but I can change the way I respond. If I can change the way I respond then I'm clearly the one that CAN change. I can change my response to the world and its ways. The cycles continue but I will change my response to it.
What a coincidence: This morning (just 3 or so hours ago), I was revising a topic in Software Engineering (being a computer science student) called the Spiral Model—a software development life cycle used to develop software by ... Now I saw the title of this essay. 😁
Thank you for writing this. I have been thinking about an idea related to it. I had, and still have, this tendency of dwelling on my failures and mistakes bcs of my recurring patterns every time after making them, and not moving forward or restarting. But now I think about how I would treat myself if I were someone I cared for. (A lesson or rule I learned from Jordan Peterson.)
Now, after I find myself in that state of dwelling on past mistakes and failures, and acting depressed and not feeling like moving forward, I think if I had been someone I cared for, then I would have told him that he is not flawless and is not a perfect being without any limitations. Moving forward in the present is what matters for him more than failing in the past. I would have told him to restart. “Where you're moving towards matters more than where you are now” -- Jordan Peterson.
Doing so helps me restart after falling again in my recurring pattern.
I have not been able to actually put my thoughts into words at the moment. I will comment again here once I am able to in the future.
Highly relatable. I never thought about it this way before. It changed my perspective towards the thing I was criticizing and shaming myself for a lot up until now: Coming back to my negative tendencies that I thought I had overcome.
This is an amazing insight, thank you so much for sharing. Very inspiring. I’m gonna think about this and integrate it in my own life and my writing.
Very insightful post. Thank you!
The whole approach you're taking reminds me that we aren't loops or cycles. The world is though and the world is throwing its crap our way.
I can't change the world but I can change the way I respond. If I can change the way I respond then I'm clearly the one that CAN change. I can change my response to the world and its ways. The cycles continue but I will change my response to it.
What a coincidence: This morning (just 3 or so hours ago), I was revising a topic in Software Engineering (being a computer science student) called the Spiral Model—a software development life cycle used to develop software by ... Now I saw the title of this essay. 😁
Thank you for writing this. I have been thinking about an idea related to it. I had, and still have, this tendency of dwelling on my failures and mistakes bcs of my recurring patterns every time after making them, and not moving forward or restarting. But now I think about how I would treat myself if I were someone I cared for. (A lesson or rule I learned from Jordan Peterson.)
Now, after I find myself in that state of dwelling on past mistakes and failures, and acting depressed and not feeling like moving forward, I think if I had been someone I cared for, then I would have told him that he is not flawless and is not a perfect being without any limitations. Moving forward in the present is what matters for him more than failing in the past. I would have told him to restart. “Where you're moving towards matters more than where you are now” -- Jordan Peterson.
Doing so helps me restart after falling again in my recurring pattern.
I have not been able to actually put my thoughts into words at the moment. I will comment again here once I am able to in the future.
Highly relatable. I never thought about it this way before. It changed my perspective towards the thing I was criticizing and shaming myself for a lot up until now: Coming back to my negative tendencies that I thought I had overcome.